You and Sam have been dating for nearly 2 years now, but you've not yet had a conversation about who, if either of you, is going to to be the woman if you get married.(In this world, hermaphrodites are considered to be men). While this world was not particularly misogynistic, women were much more specialized in childbearing than in your old world. Though much taller than the women of your world, around 5'8" on average, their wider hips made their movements slower despite making childbirth easier. In addition, the body consumes muscle mass during the growth spurt that occurs during a person's transition to female. The body becomes softer and more flexible, making pregnancy and childbirth less painful but severely limiting how much muscle mass could be built up. This more survival-oriented body also meant women also lived substantially longer, most surviving to age 100, and a few making it to 130. Being female limited you to jobs that did not require physical labour, but their longer lifespans historically led to more women getting into academia, and later politics. From the end of the Middle Ages and onward, Woman began to take over intellectual and political society as male-dominated warrior-feudalism came to an end, and martial prowess was no longer as important as accumulated knowledge. Today, women make up over 60% of world leaders and over 65% of college professors.
Even so, most men did not want to become women, and in many marriages both partners remained men unless an accident with contraception occurred. Some deep aversion, probably dating back to ancient times when men would seize others to be their wives by force existed in the back of most men's minds. In some this feeling was overcome by the love of their partner, other men were simply born with a *desire* to become female instead of an aversion to it. In the case of a same-sex marriage, couples would hire a surrogate to carry children for them. Surrogacy was very common in this world both because of the high number of same-sex marriages, but also because childbirth was much easier on women's bodies.
You however, did not fall into either category, and you suspected your boyfriend Sam didn't either. Though he was quite feminine for a man, with C cup breasts that sometimes got him mistaken for a woman, he was extremely athletic, loved to run, kept his hair short, and dressed mainly in tracksuits.
You are deeply in love with Sam and are planning to propose on the 2nd anniversary of your first date and the day after your high school graduation next friday. The problem is that your father is a traditionalist, and would expect one of you to become the woman in your relationship if you were to get married. He also expects you to take over his landscaping business, which is work a woman wouldn't be able to do. If you're going to make this all work, Sam would have to voluntarily become your wife instead of your husband. Alternatively, you'll have to become *his* wife, even though the idea of being a woman makes your skin crawl. He could take over your dad's business instead.